I just discovered recently. It’s when I say that everything is ok but in reality I’m denying my real feelings…mmm let me check in google:
“We define toxic positivity as the excessive and ineffective overgeneralization of a happy, optimistic state across all situations. The process of toxic positivity results in the denial, minimization, and invalidation of the authentic human emotional experience…”
I wrote this draft back in December and I was surprised how this sounds like I have something wrong in me. Lately, I have been listening to “The work” At Home with Byron Katie and now I’m wondering if this is true.
I have been thinking about this lately because at this point in my path as an artist I think that I’m being heavily influence by the work of other artists, specially Frannerd and this has created discomfort in my head.
I remember this happened to me a couple of years ago and I just couldn’t continue working with my art anymore, I felt that I was just copying her and not creating something special and I felt that coming again, this scared me a lot. Have this happened to you?
This time I decided to do a little research in YouTube to see other’s points of view and these are the videos that I found. Maybe you are going through the same and this could be very helpful for you:
Wow this was exactly what I was looking for. Today, I discovered that life is no Black or White and I have that feeling for the longest time but I didn’t look into this until today. I feel that everyone says “Life have greys too” but I didn’t hear examples of those greys before. Also, I think you’re completely right about more constructive discussions or at least more gentle discussions would come out of this way of understanding the world because I would deeply understand that what I think could has wrong and goods (this is so liberating). I feel like as a society we’re not use to kindness towards ourselves ( the most important one) or others that’s why is so hard to believe this concept (and this could be wrong and right at the same time 😂).
-Extract from my comment for this video in YouTube
I also found this super interesting article about the effect of living in a world where we see thing as opposites and how it affects our mental health:
Definitely and must read if you want to know more about what the video is referring to in a deeper way.
Finally, remember that is important to work questioning you own thinking. I do this through The Work. A very cool tool that the author of the book Loving What Is developed or found, sometimes she says it found her haha.
Lately I have been in this weird journey towards myself, started by the courage I have seen in Frannerd’s Patreon account, wait a second…you know what? I would say it started with Byron Katie“Loving What Is” book which laid the foundation to allow Fran’s openness, sweetness and kindness get into my heart and now this woman, Jenna Lyons.
Well well, where to start? You know I used to work in the Fashion Industry which I left because of the toxicity I felt in the work place, since then I have been looking for something different which I didn’t find until recently in Frannerd’s Patreon, a space where I can be myself and share what I create or think without feeling judge or made fun of. Anyways today while in the subway I saw a sign announcing the newest Jenna Lyons’ show “Stylish with Jenna Lyons” which it immediately reminded me of this tall beautiful woman which style I use to love so deeply that I have to connect with her (if you don’t know her, she use to work as a Creative Director for JCrew and she with Mickey Drexler basically grew the brand like never before, and like 2 years ago she left her position and went away from the cameras for a while…just saying in the gossip note), it was when my craziness started haha. I just went down the rabbit hole and found such a beautiful, sincere and kind woman that I wanted to share her with you, through all these videos that I found.
I recently found this article that explains very well in what way we’re all connected and not just individual objects floating in the nothing. For me, this was groundbreaking because now I can’t deny my conextion to you or the world, I’m like a tree depending on you, the world, everything.
Desde hace unas semanas, diria meses o tal vez años he tenido problemas con el subir y bajar de peso. Esta idea a ido creciendo con el paso del tiempo, pero es algo que he tratado de ignorar por años, aunque obviamente como todo lo que ignoras en la vida no desaparece y es algo que simepre te acompaña. Desde que nos subscribimos al gimansio ha sido mi constante lucha, ir o no ir al gimnasio.
Encontré que hay un espacio entre tú y tus pensamientos, cuando tus pensmaientos se fucionan con tu yo, se crea el “ego”. Por ejemplo, un dia cuando eres bebé alguien te dice que eres “gorda” (como uno de muchos ejemplos) y obvio eso no significa nada para ti, sólo son palabras sin ningun significado, sonries y mueves tus pequeñas manitas, pero cuando creces no se por que motivo crees que ese pensamiento es real y te fucionas con él, por lo tanto cada dia que te vez al espejo crees completamente tus pensamientos y los lentes con el que percibes esa “realidad” es lo que conocemos como ego.
Basicamente es la aceptación total y completa de que todos nuestros pensamientos son reales.